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How to talk to your kids about… your estate plan

Written by PenFinancial Credit Union | Feb 27, 2025 4:27:21 PM

Talking to your kids, or other loved ones, about your estate plan may not be the easiest topic to bring up, but it’s an important step in preparing your family for the future. By being open and transparent, you can help your family understand your wishes, reduce confusion, and promote harmony when it comes time to manage your affairs.

Choose the right moment

Look for a calm and relaxed setting where everyone can focus and engage without distractions. The goal is to create an open atmosphere where your kids feel comfortable asking questions and expressing their thoughts.

Start with honesty and clarity

Begin by explaining why you want to have this conversation. Let your children know that you want to make things easier for them down the road and ensure that everyone is on the same page. Reinforce that this is about avoiding misunderstandings and making sure your wishes are respected.

Example:
“I want to talk to you about our estate plan so that you understand how things will be handled. It’s important to me that everything is clear and that you feel comfortable asking questions.”


Remember, being an executor is a significant responsibility, but you don’t have to go it alone. Legal and financial professionals are there to help you navigate the process. After all, even CEOs have their board of advisors!

Address their questions and concerns

Be prepared for your kids to have questions. They might ask about how assets will be distributed, who will be responsible for certain decisions, or why you made specific choices. Answer honestly and reassure them that your decisions are based on what you believe is best for the family.

Explain key components

Walk your kids through the basics of your estate plan, including:
  • Your will and beneficiaries – Explain who will inherit what and why.
  • Executor and power of attorney – Let them know who you’ve chosen to manage your affairs.
  • Health care directives – Share your wishes regarding medical decisions if you’re unable to communicate.
  • Guardianship for minors – If you have younger children, explain the plans in place for their care.

Don’t forget to also share where they can find your plan and important documents. Are they in a filing cabinet, a shoebox, or saved to the cloud? Ensuring the documents are easily accessible when the time comes will go a long way in reducing stress.

Reassure and involve them

Let your kids know that this conversation is not about dividing assets but about making sure everyone is taken care of. Encourage them to express any feelings or concerns they have, and emphasize that your goal is to promote fairness and prevent conflict.

Introduce them to your trusted network

In creating your estate plan, you’ll likely tap into a variety of professionals – from lawyers, to accountants, to your friendly PenFinancial advisor. Making these introductions is a great way to ensure your family, and executor, know where to go for assistance settling your estate when the time comes.

Keep the dialogue open

An estate plan is not static—it evolves as your life changes. Revisit this conversation periodically, especially after significant life events like the birth of grandchildren, changes in health, or financial shifts.

The benefits of transparency

  • Reduces uncertainty – Kids understand their roles and responsibilities ahead of time.
  • Prevents family conflict – Clear communication minimizes the risk of disputes.
  • Protects your legacy – Ensures your assets and wishes are handled as you intended.

While it might feel awkward at first, talking to your kids about your estate plan fosters trust, prepares them for the future, and gives everyone greater peace of mind.

 

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